How to keep a man interested is by being independent. It is a comment that I get a lot from men. How to keep a man interested? What exactly do they mean by that?
How to keep a man interested is to be Independent
They like a woman that they haven't completely conquered yet.
Yes, there needs to be closeness and intimacy for a solid relationship. However, the closeness has to evolve in steps. Men get scared easily when it comes to emotions. And some women are in a hurry to share or "load" their emotions. It gives them a fake feeling of closeness.
How to keep a man interested is about slowly divulging your deep personal information about yourself. If you have a troubled pass, if you have been abused, if you had some difficult experience with your ex, or other intense and difficult situations, wait a few months before sharing.
Fill your bank account of love; the currency represented is all the dates and the time that you have spent together. You have laughed, teased each other, and shared happy experiences. Build more of those.
Later, you will have enough to make withdrawals. The withdrawals represent the tough times, the trials, and both of your emotional baggage.
It is important also to be intellectually independent on how to keep a man interested. You need to have your own opinions on situations and on people. It is better to be keen on opinions. And the more you are sharing those, the more harmonious the relationship is.
On the other hand, don't be afraid to express your contrasting opinions. He will respect for it and even more if you are able to defend them with common sense arguments.
It shows that you love yourself and respect yourself enough to be able to affirm who you are. If you respect yourself, he will too. That is how to keep a man interested. If he doesn't, you know what to do; you dump him.
How to keep a man interested: Have your own hobbies, passions, friends and social life
I am not suggesting here to be out all the time. Spend some time away from him once in a while. Don't share everything, everywhere.
By having your own life and your own time, your man will compete for your attention. This keeps him at the tip of his toes.
How to keep a man interested: Acknowledge what he does for you. Not what you would like him to do for you. Or how you would like himto be. Men need to be admired and appreciated for what they accomplish. It could be as ordinary as driving you to work or paying you a vacation.
How to keep a man interested:
Don't be jealous and try not to be naive. Be cool and collected. Be together.
Self confidence is a turn on for men. This is how to keep a man interested.
How to keep a man interested:
Let him have his own time
Men need to be in herd. This is an emotional need for him. Dr. John Gray (Mars and Venus) says that men are like elastics: the more it stretches away from you, the quicker it comes back to you.
You will keep your man's love interested if you give him some freedom. You will soon realize that he will want to be with you even more. When something is not forbidden, what is the trill?
How to keep a man interested:
Fall in love with yourself and he will too Love yourself for who you are. Love your imperfections. That way, you are making the biggest sales pitch.
You won't be easily offended by his possible remarks. Therefore, he won't easily get to you. He will stop. You are easy to live with.
The love stays alive.
Express yourself using "I". Nagging proof.
I know that we like to nag. It releases so much frustration and tension. I read everywhere that women nag too much.
I have a problem with that because I love nagging! It feels so good after! It is an effective way for us women to release tension, frustration and stress.
There is a way to express your frustration without jeopardizing the harmony. Speak by strating your sentences with I; for example, if he hasn't called you as promised, you could nag:
Why haven't called?!!!
Or you could use the I:
I was waiting for you call or I thought that you would call. I haven't planned anything else because I thought that you had planned something for us.
Another example:
Who is that girl that you were talking to, Mr?
Using the I:
I didn't feel comfortable seeing you talking to her
Yes, it requires stepping on your pride. That is a great way to communicate, release the tension, without damaging the relationship. He knows exactly how you feel (more about men and intuition below). It avoids escalating misunderstanding.
I find that the problems get solved easier using that technique. You keep your man interested.
How to keep a man interested:
Let him know what makes you happy. Men are not intuitive. I have had a hard time accepting this. But my life became easier with them.
You need to outline to them what it is that you want. That way, you are enabling him to be your hero. He will feel manly, and, you will win yourself a man. That is how to keep a man interested.
Thursday, April 9, 2009
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
15 Ideas To Get Out of a Blind Date
How can you dodge the bullet, in terms of avoiding the dreaded first date, so that nobody's feelings get hurt?
My suggestion is to accomplish this task during the very first telephone call.
Here are some remarks you can make, during the course of your 'phone exchange, that will ensure that you will neither receive a second 'phone call nor be pressed into ever going out with an individual you have no desire to meet.
1. "Can you keep a secret? The last guy I told this to tried to call "America's Most Wanted", but that's okay, because (snicker) he's no longer in the position to report anything to anybody".
2. "Yeah, just the other night when I was right in the middle of shaving my back ..."
3. "Personal hygiene is soooo 20th Century"!
4. "You sound really sensitive. Bet you wouldn't walk off just because a girl has 2 or 3 highly-visible, gigantic, pus-filled growths in the center of her forehead"!
5. "So, is this your first time dating somebody with multiple personalities"?
6. "Wow, I love the Lakers, too...in spite of that restraining order they got put on me for stalking several team members".
7. "Do you mind if I bring my children along on our date? It's so hard to find a babysitter, once they find out you have 22 kids"!
8. "Do you have any personal hang-ups regarding cannibalism"?
9. "Do you like spontaneity, 'cause I can give you spontaneity. baby, like just, all of a sudden, right in the middle of us dining in a restaurant, standing on my head and oinking like a pig"
10. "The doctor says he's never seen a skin condition like mine, just like an armadillo"!
11. You know, I think it's true what they say about pets and their owners. I've had my bulldog Spencer for over 10 years now and the two of us are really starting to look a lot alike!"
12. "You must be a very understanding person. You know, not every guy would feel comfortable taking out somebody with a severe flatulence problem".
13. "You should hear what I did during my last psychotic episode"!
14. "My idea of the perfect first date? Personally, I think there's nothing more fun than holding up a convenience store or two, just to break the ice".
15. "Do you ever get the urge to just scream, I mean SCREAM AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS, GETTING LOUDER AND LOUDER WITH EVERY WORD? HUH? HUH?"
by Angela Coleman
My suggestion is to accomplish this task during the very first telephone call.
Here are some remarks you can make, during the course of your 'phone exchange, that will ensure that you will neither receive a second 'phone call nor be pressed into ever going out with an individual you have no desire to meet.
1. "Can you keep a secret? The last guy I told this to tried to call "America's Most Wanted", but that's okay, because (snicker) he's no longer in the position to report anything to anybody".
2. "Yeah, just the other night when I was right in the middle of shaving my back ..."
3. "Personal hygiene is soooo 20th Century"!
4. "You sound really sensitive. Bet you wouldn't walk off just because a girl has 2 or 3 highly-visible, gigantic, pus-filled growths in the center of her forehead"!
5. "So, is this your first time dating somebody with multiple personalities"?
6. "Wow, I love the Lakers, too...in spite of that restraining order they got put on me for stalking several team members".
7. "Do you mind if I bring my children along on our date? It's so hard to find a babysitter, once they find out you have 22 kids"!
8. "Do you have any personal hang-ups regarding cannibalism"?
9. "Do you like spontaneity, 'cause I can give you spontaneity. baby, like just, all of a sudden, right in the middle of us dining in a restaurant, standing on my head and oinking like a pig"
10. "The doctor says he's never seen a skin condition like mine, just like an armadillo"!
11. You know, I think it's true what they say about pets and their owners. I've had my bulldog Spencer for over 10 years now and the two of us are really starting to look a lot alike!"
12. "You must be a very understanding person. You know, not every guy would feel comfortable taking out somebody with a severe flatulence problem".
13. "You should hear what I did during my last psychotic episode"!
14. "My idea of the perfect first date? Personally, I think there's nothing more fun than holding up a convenience store or two, just to break the ice".
15. "Do you ever get the urge to just scream, I mean SCREAM AT THE TOP OF YOUR LUNGS, GETTING LOUDER AND LOUDER WITH EVERY WORD? HUH? HUH?"
by Angela Coleman
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Who actually follows these lists of online dating?by Fringles.com
How to Pick up the Guy of your Dreams if you like robotic lists or are stuck in the 80's:
1 Make eye contact with the guy you’re interested in. If he does not see you, pass by him, dance next to him or figure out a way for him to notice you.
2 Be sure not to draw too much attention to yourself (i.e. don’t make a scene)
3 Glance at him several times, but don’t stare. If he is interested, he will return your glances.
4 Once he returns your glance, give him a slight shy smile. This lets him know that you are interested.
5 If he is with his friends he will continue talking or dancing with them, but will return glances with you.
6 At this point, if you are not shy, walk up to the group and tap him on the shoulder.
7 Say “excuse me” to him and his friends. This will let his friends know that you don’t mean to be rude.
8 If you are shy, then pass by him, smile and give a slight gesture for him to come to you or follow you to a quiet corner.
9 If he is interested and not shy he will figure out a way to come up to you or follow you.
10 Introduce yourself. Sometimes a mere “Hi, I’m …What’s your name?” will do. This will start a conversation.
11 Continue the conversation if you can or just dance together. Just be natural. If he likes you, there’s no need to be nervous.
12 Don’t be alarmed if he ends the conversation or dance to go back to his friends. This doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like you. Keep in mind, he may be nervous as well.
13 Let him know that it was nice talking to him and offer to either give him a call or give him your telephone number. Exchange numbers or information.
14 Return to the original place you were or dancing and continue to look as cute as your are.
15 Finally, relax and congratulate yourself for taking a chance. Don’t worry, if he doesn’t call then it wasn’t meant to be anyway.
1 Make eye contact with the guy you’re interested in. If he does not see you, pass by him, dance next to him or figure out a way for him to notice you.
2 Be sure not to draw too much attention to yourself (i.e. don’t make a scene)
3 Glance at him several times, but don’t stare. If he is interested, he will return your glances.
4 Once he returns your glance, give him a slight shy smile. This lets him know that you are interested.
5 If he is with his friends he will continue talking or dancing with them, but will return glances with you.
6 At this point, if you are not shy, walk up to the group and tap him on the shoulder.
7 Say “excuse me” to him and his friends. This will let his friends know that you don’t mean to be rude.
8 If you are shy, then pass by him, smile and give a slight gesture for him to come to you or follow you to a quiet corner.
9 If he is interested and not shy he will figure out a way to come up to you or follow you.
10 Introduce yourself. Sometimes a mere “Hi, I’m …What’s your name?” will do. This will start a conversation.
11 Continue the conversation if you can or just dance together. Just be natural. If he likes you, there’s no need to be nervous.
12 Don’t be alarmed if he ends the conversation or dance to go back to his friends. This doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like you. Keep in mind, he may be nervous as well.
13 Let him know that it was nice talking to him and offer to either give him a call or give him your telephone number. Exchange numbers or information.
14 Return to the original place you were or dancing and continue to look as cute as your are.
15 Finally, relax and congratulate yourself for taking a chance. Don’t worry, if he doesn’t call then it wasn’t meant to be anyway.
Monday, April 6, 2009
Fringles.com Top Ten Worst Pick-up lines of Online Dating
We put this list out there for you to add to, comment or just go postal with your own story !! Lets hear it people......i know everyone has a story to tell !!
1. My name is (insert name of appropriate jerk)...remember that, because you will be screaming it later.
2. Hello, I'm Mister Right. Someone said you were looking for me.
3.Hi. The voices in my head told me to come over here and talk to you.
4.I lost my phone number. Can I have yours?
5.Nice legs! What time do they open?
6.Are those real? I mean your eyes, of course.
7.That dress is fabulous. It would look even better crumpled in a heap on my bedroom floor.
8.Can I buy you a drink or would you just like the money?
9.If I were you, I'd have sex with me.
10.I know women like presents. Would you like to open my package?
from Judy Steinberg
1. My name is (insert name of appropriate jerk)...remember that, because you will be screaming it later.
2. Hello, I'm Mister Right. Someone said you were looking for me.
3.Hi. The voices in my head told me to come over here and talk to you.
4.I lost my phone number. Can I have yours?
5.Nice legs! What time do they open?
6.Are those real? I mean your eyes, of course.
7.That dress is fabulous. It would look even better crumpled in a heap on my bedroom floor.
8.Can I buy you a drink or would you just like the money?
9.If I were you, I'd have sex with me.
10.I know women like presents. Would you like to open my package?
from Judy Steinberg
Friday, April 3, 2009
Fringles.com wants everyone to be "lucky" in dating
We would like to offer this chic little necklace to the person that leaves the "best" comment at the bottom of this blog entry !! Fringles.com's definition of "best" - clever, off the wall, hilarious, out of the box, abstract, genius oddity, something that would make you cry, laugh out loud or punch your co-worker !! This comment needs to be related to the online dating environment in some fashion....could be just touching on it or full court press about it !!
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Thursday, April 2, 2009
Online Dating Story from fringles.com
Ryan's Story
Ryan, 34:
I was an airline pilot living in Las Vegas, and could basically commute anywhere, so I was looking at Yahoo! Personals profiles mostly on the West Coast. I'd been married before, and was looking for more of a friendship, I wasn't looking to speed-date or anything like that. I saw Sharon's profile, emailed her, and got a response pretty quickly.
This was soon after 9/11, so it was a crazy time for the airline industry. We started talking about our jobs, and she told me she'd been laid off. A week later, I lost my job. Going over our misery in the workplace, we had a lot more in common at that point. So we built a little connection there.
What stood out the most about Sharon -- and I'm not trying to be superficial -- was this photo of her where she had super-blond hair, a super tan, and her profile said "Slender blond seeking tall man." I also saw one that looked like she was in Italy, and I thought, "Wow, this could be fun." There were some things in her profile that were important to me, and that's what prompted me to move forward.
We started emailing in early October, and right before Thanksgiving, I went on a cruise to South America with my parents. I called her before I left, and I emailed her the whole way down, on the ship, and at about every port of call. After I got back to the States, I was really looking forward to meeting her.
Not long afterward, I moved to Santa Rosa. I was working for a small wine sales company. We started talking on the phone. One night in February, I said "Do you want me to come down right now?" I showed up at her door at 9:15 p.m. on a Sunday night! My pitch to her was "I'd like to show you my photos of South America. I've got some great penguin shots to show you." I knocked on the door, she opened it up and my first impression was, "You look younger than you are."
Sharon and I built a foundation of trust and friendship
Sharon and I built a foundation of trust and friendship -- we didn't meet for four months. It wasn't about meeting and immediately having lust. She's a great person, super kind, and she doesn't have an ounce of bad in her body. I saw these qualities and knew she'd be a great mother. But being that I'd only dated different kind of women than Sharon, it took me a while to learn to appreciate Sharon's qualities; they're qualities you look for a spouse.
I proposed to her on Dec. 22, 2006.
Sharon's Story
Sharon, 36:
I had just been laid off from work, so I had a lot of spare time and was bored. I bought a new computer and placed an ad on Yahoo! Personals. I had a professionally taken photo -- I'm a graphic designer, so I had a good one made. Then, I listed all the specifics of what I was looking for: height range, preferred a college education, good manners -- I don't remember everything, but I had quite a few on there.
I got a ton of responses, but it almost seemed like they didn't read my ad. And when Ryan responded, I wasn't necessarily interested or attracted, but he seemed nice and the most normal and friendly. He was in Las Vegas and had a new job when he emailed me, but then he got laid off,
so there we were, two laid-off people
so there we were, two laid-off people. Eventually, he moved to Santa Rosa, and I was living in Napa. So we emailed each other more, and then we met.
Our first meeting wasn't in public. He just came over, but I just felt comfortable with it. He brought all these pictures of a trip he'd gone on. A week later, we had dinner at Bouchon in Yountville, where he proposed four years later!
We were married in July 2007, and in September, we're having a "Yahoo!" baby!
Online Dating Tips from Ryan and Sharon:
-Have a positive tone to your ad, instead of sounding like you have an axe to grind. No "Tired of playing games?"
-Include as much information as you're comfortable with and be specific -- things like favorite movies, favorite foods, etc. Not things like "Walks on the beach."
-Take it slow, there's no need to meet right away. But not too slow!
-It's OK to be picky.
-Just be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not. If you're not yourself, you're going to attract the wrong kind of person.
-Don't be in a rush, and don't be rude. Treat people like you'd want to be treated.
By Ryan and Sharon, Santa Rosa, California
Ryan, 34:
I was an airline pilot living in Las Vegas, and could basically commute anywhere, so I was looking at Yahoo! Personals profiles mostly on the West Coast. I'd been married before, and was looking for more of a friendship, I wasn't looking to speed-date or anything like that. I saw Sharon's profile, emailed her, and got a response pretty quickly.
This was soon after 9/11, so it was a crazy time for the airline industry. We started talking about our jobs, and she told me she'd been laid off. A week later, I lost my job. Going over our misery in the workplace, we had a lot more in common at that point. So we built a little connection there.
What stood out the most about Sharon -- and I'm not trying to be superficial -- was this photo of her where she had super-blond hair, a super tan, and her profile said "Slender blond seeking tall man." I also saw one that looked like she was in Italy, and I thought, "Wow, this could be fun." There were some things in her profile that were important to me, and that's what prompted me to move forward.
We started emailing in early October, and right before Thanksgiving, I went on a cruise to South America with my parents. I called her before I left, and I emailed her the whole way down, on the ship, and at about every port of call. After I got back to the States, I was really looking forward to meeting her.
Not long afterward, I moved to Santa Rosa. I was working for a small wine sales company. We started talking on the phone. One night in February, I said "Do you want me to come down right now?" I showed up at her door at 9:15 p.m. on a Sunday night! My pitch to her was "I'd like to show you my photos of South America. I've got some great penguin shots to show you." I knocked on the door, she opened it up and my first impression was, "You look younger than you are."
Sharon and I built a foundation of trust and friendship
Sharon and I built a foundation of trust and friendship -- we didn't meet for four months. It wasn't about meeting and immediately having lust. She's a great person, super kind, and she doesn't have an ounce of bad in her body. I saw these qualities and knew she'd be a great mother. But being that I'd only dated different kind of women than Sharon, it took me a while to learn to appreciate Sharon's qualities; they're qualities you look for a spouse.
I proposed to her on Dec. 22, 2006.
Sharon's Story
Sharon, 36:
I had just been laid off from work, so I had a lot of spare time and was bored. I bought a new computer and placed an ad on Yahoo! Personals. I had a professionally taken photo -- I'm a graphic designer, so I had a good one made. Then, I listed all the specifics of what I was looking for: height range, preferred a college education, good manners -- I don't remember everything, but I had quite a few on there.
I got a ton of responses, but it almost seemed like they didn't read my ad. And when Ryan responded, I wasn't necessarily interested or attracted, but he seemed nice and the most normal and friendly. He was in Las Vegas and had a new job when he emailed me, but then he got laid off,
so there we were, two laid-off people
so there we were, two laid-off people. Eventually, he moved to Santa Rosa, and I was living in Napa. So we emailed each other more, and then we met.
Our first meeting wasn't in public. He just came over, but I just felt comfortable with it. He brought all these pictures of a trip he'd gone on. A week later, we had dinner at Bouchon in Yountville, where he proposed four years later!
We were married in July 2007, and in September, we're having a "Yahoo!" baby!
Online Dating Tips from Ryan and Sharon:
-Have a positive tone to your ad, instead of sounding like you have an axe to grind. No "Tired of playing games?"
-Include as much information as you're comfortable with and be specific -- things like favorite movies, favorite foods, etc. Not things like "Walks on the beach."
-Take it slow, there's no need to meet right away. But not too slow!
-It's OK to be picky.
-Just be yourself, don't try to be someone you're not. If you're not yourself, you're going to attract the wrong kind of person.
-Don't be in a rush, and don't be rude. Treat people like you'd want to be treated.
By Ryan and Sharon, Santa Rosa, California
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Hilarious Lines From Online Dating Profiles brought to you by fringles.com
Fringles.com enjoys bringing you the most bizarre and abstract online dating info !!
If you have put any effort at all into online dating, I'm sure that you've read plenty about how to write online profiles, and how NOT to write them. Knowing the basics about that is a good thing, of course, and I've written my fair share on the subject.
The truth is that there is a wealth of information our there and help is readily available when it comes to creating terrific, effective online profiles. Yet, you can somehow always count on finding plenty of particularly entertaining material like what follows when browsing profile narratives.
All of these are lifted from actual profiles. Enjoy!
"I'm a walking, talking dichotomy. I hope you're the same."
After all, opposites attract, right?
"I need a man who can full feel my fantasies."
I distinctly remember an email I wrote to this one entitled, "Feeling Full". I don't remember a response. Haha.
"The three things I want most in a man are honesty, sincerity and truthfulness."
Great. The three things I want most in a woman are repetition, redundancy and duplication.
"I am recently divorced, so I am now at a stage in my life where I am not looking for one night stands."
Well, thank goodness both the marriage and that sort of behavior have come to an end. I wonder if that's a coincidence?
"I don't drink beer, but I'll play darts at the bar with a screwdriver"
Be sure to use a Philips. Those pointy ones seem to stick to the dartboard better.
"I'll bend over backwards to help anyone who needs it, but I refuse to be a pushover."
OK, so she doesn't need any help bending over backwards, get it?
"Attractive, fun, professional woman looking to date the same."
Hmm. Can't help you there, girlie. I'm a guy.
"I AM A HAPPY AND HONEST PERSON I HATE LAYS AND TO BE UNLOYAL"
Well, that about covers everything.
"I have my B.S. and J.D. I mostly use the B.S. part to do my J.D. job."
Anyone who is divorced can appreciate that one. Thanks for being honest.
"A man who does not mind the simple and loving jesters I may send his way."
Nah, I'm good. I'm pretty well stocked up on freaks with funky suits and bells on their hats.
"I hate complainers."
Why? We LOVE you.
"I am an independent woman and don't need a man to support me, although the ability to do so would be nice."
At least the truth came out early. LOL
If you have put any effort at all into online dating, I'm sure that you've read plenty about how to write online profiles, and how NOT to write them. Knowing the basics about that is a good thing, of course, and I've written my fair share on the subject.
The truth is that there is a wealth of information our there and help is readily available when it comes to creating terrific, effective online profiles. Yet, you can somehow always count on finding plenty of particularly entertaining material like what follows when browsing profile narratives.
All of these are lifted from actual profiles. Enjoy!
"I'm a walking, talking dichotomy. I hope you're the same."
After all, opposites attract, right?
"I need a man who can full feel my fantasies."
I distinctly remember an email I wrote to this one entitled, "Feeling Full". I don't remember a response. Haha.
"The three things I want most in a man are honesty, sincerity and truthfulness."
Great. The three things I want most in a woman are repetition, redundancy and duplication.
"I am recently divorced, so I am now at a stage in my life where I am not looking for one night stands."
Well, thank goodness both the marriage and that sort of behavior have come to an end. I wonder if that's a coincidence?
"I don't drink beer, but I'll play darts at the bar with a screwdriver"
Be sure to use a Philips. Those pointy ones seem to stick to the dartboard better.
"I'll bend over backwards to help anyone who needs it, but I refuse to be a pushover."
OK, so she doesn't need any help bending over backwards, get it?
"Attractive, fun, professional woman looking to date the same."
Hmm. Can't help you there, girlie. I'm a guy.
"I AM A HAPPY AND HONEST PERSON I HATE LAYS AND TO BE UNLOYAL"
Well, that about covers everything.
"I have my B.S. and J.D. I mostly use the B.S. part to do my J.D. job."
Anyone who is divorced can appreciate that one. Thanks for being honest.
"A man who does not mind the simple and loving jesters I may send his way."
Nah, I'm good. I'm pretty well stocked up on freaks with funky suits and bells on their hats.
"I hate complainers."
Why? We LOVE you.
"I am an independent woman and don't need a man to support me, although the ability to do so would be nice."
At least the truth came out early. LOL
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